As part of Joi's Mini Blog Challenge we were asked to make a Helpful List for our readers. Mine will be a helpful list to guide you through weight loss.
- Do NOT rely on other folks to join you at the gym. I used to get my feelings super hurt when my "gym buddies" would bail on me. Last year I would have even probably allowed this to derail me from going to the gym myself. But I had to learn that this journey is MINE. No one can make me gain weight just like I can't depend on someone to help me lose it. And don't hate on your friends for not going. They have their own journey. Yes, it is okay to call them a hoe-ster under your breath. But don't hold it against them when they don't commit to going to the gym. People find their dedication at their own pace.
- IT IS OKAY TO SAY NO TO YOURSELF!!! This one was and at times still is a hard one for me to learn. I don't consider myself a spoiled brat but looking at my track record with food, it's painfully clear. I never said no to myself when it came to food or ditching exercising...NEVER! If I wanted to eat 5 slices of pizza followed by a row of Oreo cookies and half a bag of Hershey candies I allowed myself to do it. And on the off chance that I actually did try to tell myself "No" I would just throw an inward fit about why I needed and deserved all of that junk. Eventually, like any parent that just wants the whining to stop, I would give into myself and eat the goodies. A few months ago my pastor mentioned one Sunday that he had to stop and ask himself this question, "Why do I find it so hard to tell myself no?" That statement stopped me in my tracks! Why do I find it hard to tell myself no? That is the day that I really really started giving it the old college try. I started saying no and guess what???? It worked. I began regaining my self control and it was glorious! This month of September would have me slipping back into the "say yes to everything" mentality but I'm gonna have to put my foot down and just say NO!
- Enjoy the body you have TODAY! I know I've said this before and so you all are tired of reading it but enjoy and love the body you have right now. Whether you are 50lbs away from goal or 2lbs. I learned the hard way that you have to appreciate your body. At my lowest weight a few years ago I was not satisfied with my body because I wanted to be slimmer. I spent several years having a body that lots of women would have been satisfied with but I never allowed myself to enjoy it because I wasn't at my final desired weight/size. Now, years and pounds later, I've learned to love my body at every stage. I am 25lbs away from where I would consider my final desired destination. Even so, I ♥ my current shape. I am appreciative of the fact that I am 50lbs lighter than where I started.
- Luke 16:10 “Whoever can be trusted with very little can also be trusted with much.."
- Take before photos. Ladies, I know this can be difficult. At my heaviest I didn't even like taking fully clothed, posed, light adjusted, air brushed photos of myself let alone a photo that is supposed to capture my exposed fat in all of it's glory(a sports bra and yoga pants is pretty dang near naked in my book). But I am soooo glad that I took those photos to be able to look back and compare just how far I've come. Even with a 20lbloss there was a notable difference.
- Exercise, even when you don't feel like it. I only do cardio *gasp*. I don't have a whole lot of time at the gym in between working a full time job and running a house hold. I've got 45 minutes to do my thang on the treadmill and head home. I would say that most days I.do.not.want.to.go. I am the mother of a one year. I don't get much sleep. I am constantly exhausted. We have church activities, family gatherings, work related events. You name it, we are part of it. So, this chick is run down most of the time. Every night I wish upon a star that my hubby could somehow magically become a plastic surgeon. That way he could make enough money for me to be a stay at home mom, I'd have an in home gym built, AND most importantly he could lipposuc my body into skinny submission. But alas such is not the case. I HAVE to work out in order to lose weight. And when I don't have motivation to go to the gym(again most days I lack the motivation) I have to remind myself that motivation is nice but in reality counts for jack-ish in this life without hard work and dedication.
- Be supportive of your friends that are making weight loss happen. I know that it is easy to let hateration into your heart and head when you see your homie that's been droppin' it like its hot. I'll be honest with you. My blog friend Taylor at Mama Tay LeMay Gets Rid of Her Gutt and I started off at the same weight. Then within a couple of months she took off like she was on fire. And she was. She was melting away while I was still just fat. Sad and fat. Mad and fat. Jealous and fat. Lazy and fat. Overeating and fat. Don't get me wrong, I was still supportive because I was so proud of her but if I am being honest with you guys there was a part of me that was like, "Another 5lbs?!?! She lost another freakin' 5 lbs?!?!" I was upset that she was losing weight and I wasn't. And you know what? Being upset, angry, hurt, etc does nothing for you. I had to slap myself across the face and remember that she has been working out dang hard and eating really healthy! She deserves every last bit of that weight loss. Now, having lost a good amount of weight myself I am at times on the receiving end of the haterade. It's not fun aannnnddd you gotta learn to just shake it off. Remember that people are happy for you but when they are angry at themselves then sometimes your success is an easier target for the hater rather than them doing the work to better themselves. LOVE YOU TAYLOR AND I REALLY AM SO PROUD OF YOU!!!
- And last but not least...get a better attitude. I've beaten this dead horse a million times. You have to be positive and have a good attitude if you want positive results in weight loss. You simply can not hate your body enough to make weight loss AND health happen. At one time I hated my body enough to lose more weight and I did. I also acquired a nice lil eating disorder as well. whomp whomp. It wasn't until I began to speak positively about myself, love myself, be happy with myself that I began to see real and sustainable weight loss. Read more about my experience here.